Are You a Textrovert? Here Is What You Need To Know

Posted by Bernie Reifkind on September 18, 2012

Well, first off you are not alone.

In a somewhat disturbing trend, more and more people prefer to text than to email or even speak.  In fact texting is to email- what email is to faxing.  The new now.

Moreover textroverts “text” messages that in many cases they would never say out loud.  Consider this, words that are in text form can become a double entendre and taken completely out of context.

These implications should be taken very seriously.

Are you a textrovert?  Would you write things in a text that you may not feel comfortable speaking out loud or writing in an email?

If you are a textrovert, here is what you need to know:

1.  The digital words that you type as a text are permanent.  Think clearly about the implications of what you text and send.  Even though most texts are exchanged “one on one”, you never know who else might see your text.  Once a text is sent, it cannot be taken back.  It is permanent even if the recipient deletes it.  Your phone service provider keeps their records, including texts.

2.  It is not necessary to respond to a text immediately.  Texting is unique in that it is immediate.  However, the need to reply instantly is not necessary unless there is an emergency.  Barring an emergency, one should think very clearly about what they are texting, the tone of the words, and then give pause before responding.  What is the rush to respond?

3.  Aside from the convenience of texting, would you say out loud the same words or conversation with the recipient?  If so, then click “send.”  However many times we text because we feel uncomfortable with expressing ourselves directly.  If that is the case, maybe we should consider why.

4.  Texting can be a huge distraction.  If you are at work and texting (during business hours), than in fact you are not doing your job.  When you text or reply to a text, in fact you are being distracted from your current task.  Heaven forbid if that task is driving a car.  Also, if you are at work, you could be putting your job in jeopardy and not even be aware of it.

5.  Textroverts believe that others are not aware that they are texting.  We have all had the experience of having a conversation with someone knowing full well that texts are being sent during the conversation.  This can be terribly maddening.  We all know when others are texting while we are speaking with them.  Textroverts look at you and look down, they look at you, then look down.  Pretending to be fully engaged in the conversation. This is exceedingly discourteous. 

And obvious.

Textroverts: give it a rest.  Unless you need to convey an urgent message, then please do the rest of us a favor:  go someplace else and text.  Moreover have the courtesy to refrain from texting while you are involved in a face to face conversation.

Lastly, to all textroverts: please do not text and drive.

I am Bernie Reifkind, CEO and founder of Premier Search, Inc.  I can be reached at 1(800) 801-1400 or email at  I welcome your phone call.

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